If you won't teach your children about sex, secular liberals who control the schools are happy to do it for you
There is another bonus to using stories, which is that they give parents help at the level that’s wanted. Some will read the book, and speak to their children in their own words. For them, each chapter ends with a framework of points and a glossary. There are also whole page diagrams which can be cut out and arranged in any order. Other parents will want to read the chapters with their children as they stand. This makes life very easy and takes away from embarrassment. Still others will hand the book to their children to read on their own.
Sexuality Explained: a Guide for Parents and Children only came out on 1 March but there is already a buzz about it. I have had a single father delighted to see his son pick it up, knowing that it would teach what he himself couldn’t. I have had a group of mothers open-eared when I told them that the Pill is a ‘Sixties idea, unnecessary and out-of-date. They each bought a copy. An unexpected market has been among twenty-year-olds, learning for the first time many things which school sex education never taught them.
Of Course There’s a Role for the School
I should put in as an aside here that of course we shall continue to rely, as we always have, upon good teachers filling in and picking up the pieces where parents fail to perform their role. The well-being of individual children is always more important than sticking to any one method. However, the case of the vulnerable should equally not stop us developing the best norms for the majority of families, families which have been sorely let down in recent years.
In practice, all pupils are going to be moulded to some extent by the culture of their school. We will never change society by relying upon individual parents happening upon a book. What I am hoping is to work through schools and parishes, asking them to promote the book to parents and to work with them, supporting them in its use. There is a lot of material there which can also be adapted for group discussion among older children. I am already getting bites from teachers who would be interested in developing this.
Once you have a pool of children being taught in like fashion, you can begin to change a community. And one successful community can draw in others. Ideally, you will combine sex education with the most effective values and relationships education I know, the Alive to the World character programme, to strengthen them in virtue. Form the next generation in the logic of all aspects of virtue and we will begin to change the world.
Leaders in this new combined education will need to be people of hope. They will need to be determined, because the task ahead is enormous. After all, we’re attempting to turn round not a cruiser but a super tanker heading in the wrong direction. They will need to be inspired and never give up. In short, the people we need are people like you.