Getting the Marriage Conversation Right
The only reason there is a debate about the legal definition of marriage today is because of confusion about its true meaning and purpose. Without truth about marriage, people take positions based on emotion and sentimentality. To restore the truth about marriage, we must witness it in a way people can understand.
The first thing to consider is that no one is really proposing to put something called “same-sex marriage” in the law. They take “a man and a woman” and replace it with “two people.” That has consequences that people are not considering. So be careful not to oppose something that is not there.
To eliminate “a man and a woman” from marriage laws is to eliminate the only civil institution that is specifically geared to unite children with their moms and dads – the sole reason for marriage being a privileged institution in the first place. That exposes the hidden agenda and the truth about what is at stake.
Opponents argue that they don’t want to change marriage, that a man and a woman can still get married – so what is the big deal? The problem is that men and women are not getting married like they once did, and this has created a crisis with increasing fatherlessness and associated consequences, and an increasing number of children living in poverty. Removing this child-centric institution from the law removes authority to actively promote the unique value of men and women marrying before having children. It makes it illegal for public institutions to do so and makes it legally discriminatory for anyone else.