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Little Women and Little Men

Little Women and Little Men

Sarah Banana

Fr Dwight Longenecker - published on 10/15/13

Pope Francis continues to shed more light on the role of women in the Church, and he has made clear he rejects reducing women to their biological function, but he also rejects the masculinizing of women.
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Some years ago, I overheard a conversation in which someone said to an old priest that there ought to be more positions for women in the Church. The grumpy priest said, “There is only one position in church for a woman: on her knees, either praying or scrubbing the floor.”

Not good. Not good at all. Yet this is not only the attitude many people think Catholics have about women – too often, it really is the attitude Catholics have about women!

The events last weekend in the Vatican can be understood as a powerful statement on the proper role of women in the Church, and as usual, Pope Francis spoke as much with his actions as his words. 

On Saturday, the Pope received the participants in a conference organized by the Pontifical Council for the Laity. The Conference marked the 25th anniversary of Pope John Paul II’s letter to women, Mulieris dignitatem – “On the Dignity of Women.” In his speech, Pope Francis – in direct continuity with John Paul II – explained how the essential dignity of women is bound up with motherhood.

However, he pointed out two dangers: “The first is reducing motherhood to a social role, to a task, however noble, but one which places a woman with her potential aside, not fully valuing her in the building up of the community. The other danger, in an opposite sense, of promoting a type of emancipation that, to occupy the spaces taken from men, abandons women of the precious traits that characterize them.”

In other words, women should neither be reduced to childbearing drudges – barefoot and pregnant and in the kitchen – nor should they react against such treatment by abandoning motherhood and try to mimic men by seeking power and prestige.

Without embarrassment or apology, Pope Francis acknowledged the distinctively feminine ability to relate closely to God. Women help “us to understand the mercy, tenderness, and love that God has for us.” The Pope praised the aptitude of service in women but lamented when that instinct to serve is abused and it becomes servitude or even slavery instead of service. 

The grumpy old priest I quoted should listen closely.

This past weekend included a moving consecration of the world to the Immaculate Heart of Mary. The original image of Our Lady of Fatima was brought from Portugal to the Vatican and was venerated by the Holy Father. The focus on Mary’s heart of service echoed the Pope’s words to the conference on Saturday.

And so we are left with the question: what is the proper role of women in the Church? It grows from and is guided by the primary natural vocation of motherhood. In the Church and in the world, women conceive, gestate, and bring to birth – not only children, but ideas, initiatives, and inspiration. Women are naturally nurturing, caring, educating, advocating for the needy, evangelizing and giving. Through the gift of motherhood in the widest sense, these other ministries come naturally and express themselves always in service, but never in the demeaning drudgery of servitude or slavery.

Saying that women should serve sounds outrageous in a world of feminism and “gender equality,” but the Pope’s message is more radical than it first appears. He went on in his comments to the conference on Saturday to affirm that the Church is feminine. The Church is “la Chiesa,” not “il Chiesa”. If the Church is feminine, then her role is to serve, and if the Church’s role is to serve, then it is the role of all members of the Church to serve – not only women.

When we take this message to its final conclusion, we see that in his thoughts on women, the Pope turns the world upside down. Rather than women trying hard to be aggressive, strong, and dominant like men, it is the Catholic message that men should learn to be more caring, nurturing, and compassionate like women. The Blessed Virgin Mary is the model not only for women disciples of Christ, but for men as well.

This imagery not only has to do with the Virgin Mary, but with the nuptial imagery in the Scripture. In Ephesians, St. Paul says, “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church.” And the Church is referred to as “the Bride of Christ.” Therefore, as C. S. Lewis has written, “In relationship to Christ, we are all female.” What this means is that all of us must respond to the call of the beloved. Christ the Bridegroom reaches out to us, and we respond in loving obedience to his love. 

Catholicism stands the world on its head, and therefore calls women to service and not slavery – and to this, the Church calls us all (men too). In this way, like the Virgin Mary, women are called to follow the path of self denial – to be little, not large. But if women are to follow the “little way,” so must we all. In the Christian Church, it is the story of both “little women” and “little men,” for sanctity consists of saying with John the Baptist, “I must decrease,” and the Gospel says that unless we become like “little children,” we cannot enter the Kingdom.

We become little by first responding humbly to the call of the beloved, then giving ourselves in sacrificial service to God and our neighbor.

Fr. Dwight Longenecker is pastor of  Our Lady of the Rosary Church in Greenville, South Carolina. Visit his blog, browse his books, and be in touch at

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