I don’t want to suggest, of course, that Christian concerns about the family can simply be conflated with the concerns of radical queer activists. But they do intersect at certain points, and there is no reason why exploring the intersections between Catholicism and queerdom on this subject should be inherently scandalous. We’re unlikely to agree with most queer activists about Catholic teaching on homosexuality, but then—as Andrew Prizzi has incisively pointed out here at Ethika Politika—most Protestants with whom Catholics happily co-operate have long disagreed with Catholic beliefs on divorce and birth control, and both of these issues, Catholics believe, like homosexuality, pertain to the natural law (CCC, 2370; 2384).
It may be a queer proposal (pun intended), but it is perhaps worth considering whether those genuinely interested in defending the historic teaching of the churches on Christian marriage and on the family do not currently have the wrong bedfellows. Instead of focusing on the defense of the “nuclear family”—a 1950s cultural meme that has very little support from Scripture or Christian tradition—perhaps Christians should be concerning themselves with exactly the sorts of themes that radical queer opponents of gay marriage like Julie Bindel emphasize—with “nurturing each other and living cooperatively,” and with “friendship groups and communities.” Real problems need real solutions.