4) God is schooling you.
Of course God can be teaching you something through pain—trying to get your attention. But as Anne Snyder observed last week, it’s often a great deal more complicated than that. The authors agree:
Instead, Jonalyn and Aubrie offer an approach that is more Eliot-ish—it involves, in a way, incorporating the grief into who you are. In the real world, a fallen world, life is sometimes awful—and there is no clear reason for it. It’s very American to try to ignore it, to try to put it in an easy box, to try to push past it, or to try to explain it. But against all this, the authors suggest that experiencing grief, if we as communities take the trouble to re-learn how to do it, is not only bearable—it is a crucial and, in a way, beautiful part of what makes us human.