Being Gay Is Not a Sin, But…

European Parliament/Pietro Naj-Oleari

An interview with a 34 year old homosexual who also supports traditional marriage.

A blogger and participant in the world of LGBT activism, Ariño began to make waves in 2011 when he revealed that he had changed his life. In 2013, he was on the front lines of the battle against the legalization of French "marriage for all" and is the author of the book, now in Italian,Omosessualità controcorrente, which has sold over ten thousand copies in France.

It was he who advised Frigide Barjot, former spokesman of the Manif pour tous (Demonstr for All), not to talk about heterosexuality, because "then you lose not only the battle but also the war." 

Interviewed by, Ariño explains that "to save man from himself, we must go to the source of the problem. That’s what we try to do on the street with Veilleurs" [the "watchmen," those who "keep watch"].

Tell us your story. How did you grow up?

I had a bad relationship with my father and when I was a teenager I was not able to make male friends. Afterwards, I understood and admitted that my homosexual tendencies were a symptom of a "wound"; only in this way did my pain begin to diminish. 

"Being homosexual is a suffering; it is not a choice or a sin or something innocuous: I know more than ninety people with homosexual impulses who have been raped. Now the LGBT world hates me for what I say, but I also repeat it to them:  homosexuality is a wound that is not healed by having sex. If you do not admit it, you will never have peace.

When did your way of understanding homosexuality change?

In 2011, I discovered the beauty of continence. I had begun to recognize that something was wrong and came back to the Church. During a conference, I spoke about my condition and I realized that it helped me. Not only that: by explaining my drama, I managed to help many people, including married men and women.

Has it been difficult?

I found one way, but there are many. Others have also managed to overcome these impulses; I discovered that recognizing my wound and offering it to Christ and the Church turned my painful condition into a party. When I refrain from practicing homosexuality, I’m not saying "no" to my instincts, but "yes" to God: it is a sacrifice to have the best, the greatest, something that I did not have before. We think that the Lord wants us only if we are good, but it is the opposite: He helps those in need and if you offer your limits, He does great things.

Why didn’t homosexual relationships make you happy?

When I was with men or watched them possessively, I felt satisfaction in the moment. But I was alone and I never felt complete. In those moments, you get the illusion of living sexuality like the others, but the truth is that sexuality can be lived only in sexual difference.

What specifically has changed in your life today?

Before I always felt inferior to men because homosexuality is envious.   Now, after discovering that God loves me and that I’m his son, wanted and loved, I do not feel inferior to any man. And so, after many years, I have discovered the beauty of male friendship, which I would not exchange for my past relationships, when I pretended that I was fulfilling myself like a man and woman in relationships.

Anyone who has renounced his past like you did is not much loved in the LGBT community. How is your relationship with the world that you used to frequent?

I have been blacklisted. They threaten me and brand as homophobic,  but I would not have resisted them: it is a world of lies, outwardly cheerful and but inside it is full of rage and sadness.  Most homophobic acts and insults against people with my tendency come from people who have injuries like mine, who scream and shout because they are fragile. 

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