Do 21st century people value marriage as much as in the past? Would you like to say anything about your own marriage—a devoted one, rare in the world of performance artists?
Love is the key to all relationships, and I was very blessed to have a loving husband who shared those treasured years with me, 24-hours-a-day for 25 years. We had the same interests and goals, the same spiritual beliefs, sense of humour, musical gifts—the list goes on. I understand how rare it is to have a destiny which united me with Ron from a karmic point of view, and I had the benefit of his truth-seeking and health-seeking and spirituality-seeking to bring me through crisis after crisis with joy and gratitude.
Having said that, he gave so much to our relationship that I could not help giving to our relationship whatever I could contribute, and I regret any time that I may have put myself before him.
I’m glad I’ve lived a long time—it’s 20 years since Ron died, in fact—in order to appreciate what he gave me, in ever-deepening ways, and making the most of the legacy our spiritual path and Ron’s love have brought me. My wish is that we could all find that love which I was inspired to write about in one of my songs, which Ron helped me with, and every day I think of the words and constantly aspire to embrace them … “let me find love, pure love in my heart.”
William Van Ornum is professor of psychology at Marist College and director of research and development/grants at American Mental Health Foundation in New York City. He studied theology and scripture at DePaul University.
* From the poem “The Joy Of Giving” by Judith Durham AO OAM. © 2009 Musicoast Pty. Ltd.
** From “Let Me Find Love” (Words & Music by Judith Durham; song arranged by Ron Edgeworth) © 1994 Musicoast Pty. Ltd.