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Divorce-proof your Marriage by Emulating Servant of God Elisabeth Leseur


Susan E. Wills - published on 10/04/14

— to the extent her health allowed — and now, meditating on the doctrine of the communion of saints, her mission included offering her physical and emotional suffering (which included the sorrow of infertility), as well as her sacrifices and prayers for the conversion and salvation of her husband, relatives, friends and for the souls in Purgatory.

While actively engaged with the world and the arrogant, atheistic Parisian society (where, according to her husband, even the atheists were attracted to her grace and holiness), she simultaneously and unassumingly lived a hidden life as a contemplative and mystic.

Elisabeth’s death in 1914, from breast cancer that had metastasized, was prolonged and painful, but Felix testified that she bore it with calm and sweetness. She had asked her sister to destroy her spiritual “Diary” after her death, but instead, her sister gave it to Felix, who published it a few years later. He was so moved by the profound faith and love of his wife, that within a year, he returned to Confession and the faith. Several years later, he entered the Order of Preachers. Ordained nine years after her death, Fr. Leseur spent much of his time until his own death in 1950 speaking about her spirituality and promoting her cause for sainthood.

Her diary is filled with wisdom and “resolutions” that can guide Catholic wives to sanctity and inspire it in others. A few examples will, I hope, suffice to encourage women to read “The Secret Diary of Elisabeth Leseur.”

It is not in arguing or in lecturing that I can make them know what God is to the human soul. But in struggling with myself, in becoming, with His help, more Christian and more valiant, I will bear witness to Him, whose humble disciple I am. By the serenity and strength that I mean to acquire, I will prove that the Christian life is great and beautiful and full of joy (p. 10).

Chastity, determination, and the dignity of life should be perpetually taught and developed in all. Women, whose immense role and influence the French do not yet fully grasp, and who does not always grasp it herself, should from now on realize her task and consecrate her life to it.

 … Today there is a duty to bear children (and it is often a sacrifice); it is a duty to have a care for those in less fortunate circumstances than our own in the matter of wealth or education; it is a duty to develop unceasingly one’s intelligence, to strengthen one’s character, to become a creature of thought and will; it is a duty to view life with joy and to face it with energy. Finally, it is a duty to be able to understand one’s time and not despair of the future (pp. 11-12).

He who has ceased to love is not a Christian. … There is no exception to this rule. Those who are separated from us … the poor savage whom we never see, those who are most abject and most guilty — all are entitled to our love, all should be brothers to us. …

Let us open our hearts to admit all humanity. At the touch of the divine, let us resound with every generous thought, every human affection; let us learn to find in each soul the point at which it is still in touch with the Infinite, with God (p. 16).

A few of Elisabeth’s “Resolutions”:

For myself:
To be very severe. … To accept troubles, sadness, suffering, and to practice voluntary mortification, all in the spirit of penance and reparation, and for souls.

For others: Not to speak of myself and my spiritual life, to keep silence about my good deeds. To be simple, true, always humble. … To be friendly and full of sympathy for men and ideas, to try to enter into and understand them. To be kind, with that true kindness that comes not from the lips but from the heart (pp. 62-63). 

To sum up: To reserve for God alone the depths of my soul and my interior life as a Christian. To give to others serenity, charm, kindness, useful words and deeds. To make Christian truth loved through me, but to speak of it only at an explicit demand or at a need so clear as to seem truly providential. To preach by prayer, sacrifice, and example. To be austere to myself, and as attractive as possible to others (p. 63).

Susan E. Wills
is spirituality editor of Aleteia’s English language edition.
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