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What Was Marriage Like Among the First Christians?

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Primeros Cristianos - published on 10/25/14 - updated on 06/07/17

They married like everyone else, but their conduct marked them as strikingly different.

On the occasion of the conclusion of the Synod on the Family, we are offering some interesting articles about the family and marriage.

Marriage in the First Centuries of Christianity

In the first centuries, as it says in the Epistle to Diognetus (from the middle of the second century), Christians “marry, as do all” (V, 6), following Jewish, Greek, or Roman customs. They accepted imperial laws, as long as these didn’t go against the gospel.  Matrimony was celebrated “in the Lord” (1 Cor. 7:39), within the community, without a special ceremony.
In the Jewish world, marriage was celebrated according to the traditional customs and rites. (See Genesis 24 and Tobit 7, 9 and 10). A certain time after the engagement, the wedding was celebrated. (The wedding was a private family matter. It was not celebrated in the synagogue, but at home.) Nonetheless, as is the case with everything in Israel, there was a religious dimension. The celebration included prayer and a blessing.

In the Roman world, three different forms of celebrating a marriage succeeded each other historically. Confarreatio (with a wedding cake), the oldest form of celebration, included legal and religious ceremonies. In the imperial age, this type of union was very rare. The common way of getting married was coemptio, a rite that symbolized the purchase of the wife, and the usus (use), simple cohabitation after mutual marital consent.

Consensus (consent) eventually became, in practice, the essential part of marital union. The Digest [part of a collection of Roman law] says, “It is not sexual union that constitutes a marriage, but consent.” (35, I, 15) As such, a wedding did not require any particular rite or the presence of a magistrate. Civil authority did nothing more than recognize the existence of a marriage, and (in a way) protect the conjugal union by imposing certain conditions.

Christians married like everyone else, but “display to us their wonderful and confessedly striking method of life.” (Epistle to Diognetus, V, 4).  They welcomed newborn life and respect the conjugal bed: “They beget children; but they do not destroy their offspring. They have a common table, but not a common bed.” (V, 6 and 7)

Ignatius of Antioch (around the year 107 A.D.) invited Christians to marry “with the approval of the bishop, that their marriage may be according to God, and not after their own lust.” (Letter to Polycarp 5,6)

Tertullian (around 160-220 A.D.) commented on the advantages of marrying in the Lord: “Whence are we to find words enough fully to tell the happiness of that marriage which the Church cements, and the oblation confirms, and the benediction signs and seals; which angels carry back the news of to heaven, which the Father holds for ratified?” (Ad uxorem II, 8)

Marital consent

From the fourth to the ninth centuries the ecclesial character of the marriage celebration between Christians was emphasized, and it was clearly established that the ceremonies of prayer and blessing were not obligatory for the validity of the union.

The first written testimony speaking of a truly liturgical nuptial blessing dates from the period of Pope Damasus (366-384 A.D.), and is found in the works of Pseudo-Ambrose (Ambrosiaster).  The blessing was only granted for a first marriage.
Thiswas profoundly influenced by Roman law, according to which consent alone was strictly necessary for marriage, whichever form it took.

In the year 866 A.D., in his answer to the Bulgarians who asked him about the importance of the ecclesiastical ceremonies (prayer and blessing), which some had declared to be the constitutive elements of marriage, Pope Nicholas I sa

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