What kind of education are we giving our kids?
At the same time, young men are drawn, often unwittingly, into a culture which schools them in habits of pornified dealings with women, lubricated by excessive drinking, resulting in a dating market which seems more like a meat market. Highly cited work by Jason Carroll and colleagues finds that nearly nine out of ten (87%) of young men in college report using pornography regularly. These habits often turn into lifetime addictions threatening family formation and marital stability. Without letting perpetrators off the hook, does anyone want to suppose that our college-bound men are not victims too?
These realities have provoked various responses. Some have called for tougher penalties on perpetrators – see Jimmy Carter making that case here. There are also calls for more women to speak out and tell their stories. And calls for stricter enforcement of the new federal guidelines on violence against women.
One interesting response was a call for young people themselves to aim at becoming better individuals. The President of Eckerd College in Florida – where two horrific sexual assault cases emerged in August of this year – wrote an open letter to students saying:
President Eastman made a very interesting argument. He didn’t try to argue that casual sex is wrong. Instead he argued that no one becomes a better person through casual sexual behavior. In the overwhelming number of opinions offered on the campus sexual assault problem, I have hardly read anything more sensible than what Eastman says here. We need better people, not just better rules.
But here’s a difficulty no one wants to talk about: colleges, most of them anyway, are not in the business of making people better. As a result of various intellectual fashions, colleges have essentially gotten out of the education business and into the activism business – the business of "changing the world" as many mottos boast.
This is another way of understanding the idea that colleges do not wish to act in loco parentis anymore. Such a notion suggests that colleges might aim to finish and complete the work of parents in forming young people – cultivating human, intellectual and spiritual virtues. Instead, most colleges today aim to remain agnostic about virtue, while imparting what they understand to be a neutral creed of self-protection and self-interest. But this isn’t neutral at all – it is the habit of atheistic utilitarianism.
If this seems a bit extreme, consider this. College-bound students aren’t very religious
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