The latest in selfishness: choosing childlessness
New York Times article
No Kids for Me, Thanks trotted out the latest self-centered choice gaining acceptance: choosing childlessness. Granted, selfishness is in our bones from the moment of birth when it was
me, me, me, 24/7. But just like diapers, we are supposed to grow out of it.
The article touts people adept at worldly accomplishments with no interest in procreating. “I don’t think I’d be a great mother…” one person said.
Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids. (The title is neither an indictment or a confession, but a brag.) In it, one angry essayist recalled children who kept interrupting his tennis game in London, as their mothers did nothing. He equated it with “a clear demonstration that the rights of parents and their children to do whatever they please have priority over everyone else’s.”
Ironically, two years later this man was booted out of a table tennis game for a child’s birthday party. “The only thing I hate more than children,” he told the N
ew York Times reporter, “are parents.” Perhaps the children were misbehaved and overindulged, but even so, to hate all children and parents is
so egocentric. Does he wish for an adult-only world before all of civilization then ceases?
NotMom Summit will take place in Cleveland this October covering: “ …workplace issues, contraception, travel, pets, health and those pesky relationships with various Significant Others.” Pesky? Hmm. Children aren’t the only inconvenient things for them.
only things you can take with you to heaven.
During his first Wednesday audience this month, Pope Francis called children the greatest blessing which God has bestowed on man and woman. He said regardless of the circumstances, "…children are never a mistake, and their sufferings are only reasons for us to love them even more.
Children DO Bring Happiness
parents’ happiness increases over time relative to non-parents.”
Big Hearted: Inspiring Stories From Everyday Families. The circumstances in the stories were ordinary but when mixed with divine grace, the outcomes became extraordinary.
People don’t start out emotionally equipped for all the challenges of family life. It comes through desire and necessity. For instance, one couple in the book wished their Down’s Syndrome daughter would die and another mother felt she could have died of embarrassment from her alcoholism. But through God and family, hearts grew, love expanded, and transformations ensued.
Patti Maguire Armstrong
is a speaker, author, and was managing editor and co-author of Ascension Press’ s best selling"Amazing Grace" series. Her latest books are
Big Hearted Families
and the popular children’s book series
Dear God I Don’t Get It
Dear God, You Can’t Be Serious!
(The 3rd book in the series will be released next spring.)
This article was originally published on her blog Catholic News and Inspiration and is reprinted here with kind permission.