In 2016, the date shares the memory of Jesus' conception and his death, and has something to say to our families-in-crisis
This Friday Catholics will all see a cosmic event more rare than any comet or eclipse: Good Friday will fall on March 25. This won’t happen again until 2157. We will commemorate the death of Jesus on the day that falls exactly nine months before Christmas: the day of his conception.
The Church will officially celebrate the Annunciation on April 4 this year instead of March, but that shouldn’t stop us from noticing this unusual occurrence — or hearing the special message it has for us in 2016.
In fact, seeing God joining humanity and being destroyed by humanity on the very same day should speak directly to our times because it speaks to two fundamental attributes of God that we have rejected: his Fatherly and motherly love.
In his encyclical on mercy, St. John Paul II gives great importance to two Old Testament Hebrew words for God’s merciful love: hesed and rahamim.
Hesed is fatherly love. John Paul describes it by way of the father of the Prodigal Son: the father sees himself in his son and so takes full responsibility for him, regardless of his sins. Rahamim is a mother’s love which we also see in God, for instance when he says, “Can a mother forget her infant, be without tenderness for the child of her womb? Even should she forget, I will never forget you” (Isaiah 49:15).
The United States faces a crisis of both fatherhood and motherhood —with an epidemic of fatherlessness at the root of many social ills and one million abortions a year standing as a tragic sign of the radical shift in the value women put on motherhood.
And it is at this crossroads that we find the last March 25 Good Friday for nearly a century and a half.
When these two events coincided in 1608, John Donne wrote a poem about it, seeing the deep contrasts between Christ’s conception and his crucifixion. He looks at it from Mary’s point of view:
“She sees a cedar plant itself, and fall …
“Sad and rejoiced she’s seen at once, and seen
“At almost fifty, and at scarce fifteen ;
“At once a son is promised her, and gone ;
“Gabriel gives Christ to her, He her to John.”
He notes how in the Church God “would join in one/Manhood’s extremes: He shall come, he is gone,” carefully building his poem around a central conclusion: “Death and conception in mankind is one.”
We are temporary. When we appear, we are already on our way to disappearing. This is the message of the March 25 Good Friday, the cruel death that comes so quickly after the quiet beginning.
Nothing good lasts. The idols all crumble. If we think material things will make us happy, we are foolish. If we think a political party or political system will bring about real, lasting justice, we are setting ourselves up for a fall. All that lasts are hesed and rahamim.
On this one March 25 you have the whole Christian story summed up in the story of family relationships, from “the Angel’s Ave” to Mary Christ’s “Consummatum est” to the Father.