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Marriage vs. living together: How does it affect your kids?

Broken Family


Cecilia Zinicola - published on 10/16/17

A new study shows that married parents offer something cohabiting couples don't.

Both in the United States and in Europe, kids born of unmarried parents who live together are almost twice as likely to see their parents split compared to kids whose parents are married.

A new study by the Institute for Family Studies and Social Trends investigated family stability, comparing married parents and cohabiting parents in many countries throughout the world. The study’s findings upend some of the most common myths about cohabitation and its impact on family stability and kids’ well-being.

It’s not about the money

One of these myths is the idea that cohabitation is less stable than marriage because low-income couples are more likely to choose to live together. However, the researchers found that in most of the countries they studied, cohabitation is less stable even for those who have a high educational level.

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Parents who live together without being married and who have high educational attainment are still much more likely to break up than married couples who have a lower educational level.

This suggests that regardless of income or education, a determining factor in relationships is whether or not the couple is bound together by marriage.

A second argument is that cohabitation is more stable or begins to appear more like marriage insofar as it becomes more common in society.

However, the findings do not support this idea. As the number of children born to cohabiting couples rises in a country, so does family instability.

More likely to suffer abuse

The research shows that children of unmarried parents are more likely to suffer abuse and to be aggressive or show violent behavior. They are more likely to experience poverty and have worse health.

Family stability is key for children’s healthy development, and marriage is important for giving that family stability that kids need.

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Lovers love each other, but spouses commit to loving each other forever. There is a real act of self-giving of all that one is and has, and this commitment moves them to stay together in the future.

This act of love has a key foundational value for the children’s development when they grow up supported by a committed love.

There is no question that re-establishing a culture that values marriage, particularly in communities most devastated by loss and cohabitation, is a crucial way to improve children’s well-being.

This article was originally published in the Spanish edition of Aleteia and has been translated and/or adapted here for English speaking readers.

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