In romantic relationships, emotional dependency is a personality disorder with deep roots.
Emotional dependency is a personality disorder in which a person with low self-worth is constantly seeking security in other people, or in external factors, without trusting in his or her own interior criteria and resources.
Emotional dependency starts when a child is not loved appropriately by the people who mean the most to him, such parents, siblings, or other close people. This lack of love generates low self-esteem, a problem that tends to grow during adolescence. As an adult, the emotional dependent recreates situations where he plays a submissive role, always trying to please others in order to maintain the relationship bond at all costs, and thus avoid the terrifying prospect of rejection.
The lack of self-esteem from childhood on is the main cause of emotional dependency. It is the result of an emotional blackmail that teaches the child that she will be loved only after meeting the expectations of her parents or other meaningful people. Any effort to affirm herself or show her individuality will be reproved or punished. Her wings are cut, and she quickly learns not to create conflict or not to bother her parents if she wants to get the affection she needs.