3 Ways to put relationships first in your busy schedule


When you’re short on time to connect, these steps can help you be more intentional with friends and family.

It’s not a crime to schedule people in. We do it in the office and we schedule workouts so why not schedule out time to be with the people we care about the most? Life is hectic for all of us and by now we should know for many of us, if we don’t write it down, we won’t do it. While tasks such as taking out the trash or writing a brief will most likely be there for us to come back to, the people we care about most may not. Whether it’s writing it down, logging the task in your phone, or setting up alerts on your email, let’s all make an effort to make time for the people in our lives.

3. Communicate honestly

The truth is, many relationships come to an end or get to a point of non-existence because we struggle with communication. I take on a lot because I don’t like to say no, but in the season of applying to law school and coping with the death of family members, I’ve been forced to be honest with myself and those around me. “I cannot do everything.” And as much as I would like to write an “S” on my chest and label myself “superwoman,” even she stuck to one thing at a time. Communication is key when it comes to just about anything in life, but it’s truly key in relationships. Missing lunch or an important life event with a friend is always excusable if we are willing to be honest up front.

We are all human and sometimes we need to admit our humanness to ourselves and others. When I began applying to law school, particularly studying for the LSAT, I told those around me that my time would be limited. I couldn’t plan events, attend some Bible studies, or go away for the weekend. My life for at least three months was focusing on that test and my goal to get into law school. They appreciated my honesty and encouraged me along the way.

Relationships are important. The people we have chosen to join us on our life journey are important and we should tell and show them that every chance we get. No one is going to stay mad forever if we miss a birthday, but some of us may stay mad if we aren’t told that our friends aren’t coming. I find ways to value those in my life and to be intentional about how I show up for them. Whether it’s writing plans down for the week or admitting that I can’t show up to an event, my goal is to make sure the titles I hold are fulfilled and that doesn’t always mean being there but taking out the time to let the person know, “I care too much to make you wonder why I didn’t tell you I was too busy to come in the first place.”

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