We’re used to the phrase. But understanding it means thinking outside the box.
Openness to life means openness to adventure.
My 9-year-old son Charlie and I share a terrible problem. We’re not open to life.
Last year, I decided to take Charlie to a Benedictine College basketball game. He didn’t want to go. He threw a fit about how he didn’t want to go. I made him go anyway. He had the time of his life.
He also didn’t want to swim, kayak or ride a bike. Until I forced him. Then he didn’t want to stop.
All of my life I have been the same way. My wife, April, wants to go and do something out of the ordinary — a hike, a festival, being part of a show. I point out the difficulties, the obstacles, the hassles, but she stands firm and insists. I give in and go — and I’m always glad I did.
People like Charlie and me like quiet. We like home, and we want to stay there. The life we want is calmer and safer. But it is paler, emptier and poorer, too.
Openness to life means being open to who you are.
It means being open to the real you, the you with your personality and your body. Your imperfect personality and your imperfect body. It means being open to your body in its masculinity or femininity.
It means being open to the you that you see in the mirror, without disappointment or disgust.
Openness to life also means being open to new possibilities in your story.
It means not pre-determining that you can only be this small thing (“I can’t handle more than I have”) or that you must be this giant thing (“I should be amazing, like her”) but being open to where the path of your life will take you (“One step is all I can take, but it will be a step forward”).
Openness to life doesn’t mean openness to your plan for life. And it doesn’t even mean openness to God’s plan.
It means being open to no plan sometimes, when your plan fails and what you thought was God’s plan disappears before your eyes.
Being open to life means being open to having a child when you want one.
It also means being open to having a child when you don’t want one.
It also means being open to not having a child when you have wanted and begged and pleaded with God for one for years.
Being open to life means sacrificing for life …
If openness to life means more children than you expected, it will mean having a smaller social life than you wanted. It means you won’t have the time you wanted. It means you won’t eat the food you wanted. It means you won’t have the things you wanted.
(But it does mean that whenever you get a taste of any of those things, it will fill you with gratitude.)
But openness to life also means being open to pleasure.
New pleasures. Unexpected pleasures. The pleasure of sharing a joke with your son, when he has grown just old enough to share a joke. The pleasure of seeing your daughter discover something new, when you have grown just a little too old to appreciate new things.
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