An experienced wife, mother, and grandmother proposes tips for taking care of the love of a lifetime.
Is there a formula for a couple’s love to last a lifetime? What can we do when we hit tough times? Is it really possible to be faithful “till death do us part”?
Many books have been written about these questions, but Spanish author Victoria Cardona assures us that based on experience, a couple can most definitely be faithful throughout their entire lives.
A mother of six and a grandmother, she’s written a book specifically on these important questions, based on real experiences and examples called La receta del amor en pareja (The Recipe for Married Love) — currently available only in Spanish. The book has made her a bit of an authority on the topic in Spain, as well as a popular international speaker.
Cardona takes something very important into account: each stage of life is different. We have a trajectory, and life as a couple is also a path that goes through very different stages, from infatuation — feeling that you can’t live a single moment without your beloved — to “reaching safe harbor.”
Here are 14 ideas that Cardona considers essential for married life to last for the long-haul:
1. Take time for courtship
“The word ‘courtship’ has been lost and it wouldn’t be bad to recover it,” she writes.
2. Courtship or dating is a time to get to know each other
Don’t let infatuation blind you. You have to see, observe, and get to know your future spouse.
3. Love means navigating as a team
“A love that we want to live by rowing together at the same speed.”