13. How do we deal with the in-laws?
“Some parents want to organize their married children’s lives: suddenly they’re interested in where we hang a picture in our apartment, or they tell us how many children we can have, or they just want to protect us too much. We need to find a gentle way to explain that we are old enough to make those decisions now, we have the skills it takes to hang a picture in the right place, and no one else ultimately makes the decisions but the two of us.”
14. Avoid becoming a victim
We must activate the “know how to ask” feature even for small things, like my friend who left a post-it on the fridge that said, “Don’t forget to wish me a happy birthday tomorrow.”