If you want your kids to be obedient, there are some rules you should follow first.
The setting of rules requires creativity; there is no one-size-fits-all solution. Each family has its own culture and needs, so what works in one family, might not work at all in another. However, here are a few general ideas that should help everyone.
Remember that rules are for children, not for parents
Children sometimes ask that parents follow the same rules, and since the best way to teach children is to set a good example and have them follow it, you might agree to that in some cases. However, it’s obvious that not all the rules that apply to them can apply to you, so don’t allow your children to force you to follow the same rules. This helps them understand that it’s the parents who have the authority, not the children.
The consequences set for breaking each rule need to be logical
They need to have some connection to the broken rule itself, and be executable immediately. Don’t set consequences lasting for months, or permanently, because with the passage of time the child will not remember why he is being punished, and will only feel resentful.
Set rules early
Don’t think that children don’t understand because they are young. You can start very early with regular times for sleep, meals, and bathing, which can help you not to feel so overwhelmed by the responsibilities of caring for a child. When you start early, children gain trust and have fewer problems with quick adaptation and acceptance of rules, starting in preschool and kindergarten.