The tantrums phase usually ends by the time kids reach school age, but some children still seem incapable of managing their emotions. They might get upset over little things, or they may have little empathy and patience with their siblings or relatives. What can you do with a kid who is always mad?
First, we have to be careful not to stick a label on them. Many parents may feel tempted to show their anger with humor, saying things like: “You’re always in a bad mood” or “You’re the grouch of the house.” These words can make the child think that it’s his nature, and that there’s no solution for him. Boxing the kid into a category or stereotyping him will just make it harder for him to leave that behavior behind.
Secondly, we have to avoid conditioning our love. We know that it’s hard to deal with ill-tempered kids sometimes, and it’s much more pleasant when they come to you and give you a hug. But when they go through a phase of being mad and upset at everything, we really need to keep showing our love and affection. It’s precisely at these moments when we have to make it clear that we love him and will ALWAYS love him, whatever his struggles and virtues. That unconditional love is the foundation on which we will be able to help him improve day by day.