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6 Ways to tell a woman you love her



Cecilia Zinicola - published on 02/22/19

Men need to learn to speak the language women understand.

Women communicate in a different way than men do, and they look for different signs of love. By learning to understand the differences between how men and women express and experience love, we can increase our ability to make our spouse happy.

Among the things that men should keep in mind to make a woman feel loved are the following:

  • Pay attention to the little things.
  • Do little things to win her heart every day.
  • Give importance to and explore physical connection.
  • Know how to take your time and not rush.
  • Understand the value of processes more than objectives.
  • Tell her often that she is loved.
  • Be tender and affectionate.

Little things

Women feel loved if they see that their husbands pay attention to the details of a relationship. The best ways of expressing love are simple, small, seemingly unimportant acts, such as an unexpected hug, holding hands when you walk together, or his putting a coat around your shoulders when you are cold.

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Conquering her heart

Women want to be won over anew day by day. When men make an effort to show their love in frequent gestures such as buying little gifts, leaving romantic notes, or sending flowers or letters, they make their message of love concrete without having to turn to expensive or extraordinary means.

Physical contact

The expression of love on a physical level offers a broad spectrum of possibilities. Often, men focus on the most obvious options, but women expect to be loved as a whole. A long hug, a prolonged kiss, or a loving caress on her face, without being an exclusively sexual overture, expresses true care for her.


Women expect more than kissing a little, making love, and falling to sleep. They need to experience more intimate time before, during, and after being sexually intimate. For women, it’s important for there to be a context and profound sense of intimacy with their husband at each stage. When men learn to give their wives that experience of love, they feel truly appreciated and valued.

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It might seem simple or obvious that a man loves his wife, but even if they know it, women need to hear frequently that they are loved. They appreciate it when their husband tells them that they are intelligent, attractive, a great mother, and a fantastic wife. Words have a deep impact and saying “I love you” every day is food for the soul.


Tenderness is an essential element in a relationship with a woman, and it’s important to be in touch with times when a woman may be more emotionally vulnerable, such as their monthly cycle, pregnancy, and childbirth. Women expect their husbands to accompany them with kindness at all times, giving them a solid support of affection.

Men and women are different and complementary in general, and beyond that, each individual is unique. Each and every person needs to be loved on their own terms, and when we learn the “love language” of our spouse and speak it to them through our words and actions, it helps our relationship grow in depth and strength.


Read more:
How men and women speak differently about love

Read more:
How to love people for who they are … and not who you want them to be


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