Losing her sister in horrific circumstances led Marian Partington to embark on an incredible journey of forgiveness.
Among the victims was Lucy Partington, an English Literature student who had gone missing on December 27, 1973. For 20 years, the family had had no idea what had happened to 21-year-old Lucy. But recently Lucy’s sister, Marian, shared with the BBC how she was able to forgive the serial killers whose horrific crimes shook the whole of Britain.
In a revealing video, Marian shared how she’d run the gamut of emotions over her sister’s death, including a “murderous rage” that showed her that even she herself could be capable of killing. However, in 2004 she had the opportunity of joining the Forgiveness Project, whose participants share “stories of forgiveness in order to build hope, empathy and understanding.
Through the project, Marian was able to develop empathy for Rosemary West, who’d had a horrific childhood herself, growing up in an abusive and loveless family. This empathy, and seeing Rose as a human being, allowed Marian to make a vow “to try and forgive the Wests.” As Marian shared with the Forgiveness Project: “Her story seems to be about the impoverishment of a soul that knew no other way to live than through terrible cruelty. A life deprived of truth, beauty or love … Will she ever know the sacredness of life?”
Yet, through this forgiveness Marian is quick to point out that while she forgives the Wests as human beings, she doesn’t forgive what they did. As she explains, while leaning on Scripture, the ability to forgive allowed her to confront the pain and not live with unhealthy thoughts for the rest of her life. “Lucy’s life was sacred and I needed to reclaim her as a person, as my sister, from what happened,” she shared.
If you’d like to listen to Marian’s inspirational speech on forgiveness at St. Paul’s Cathedral in London, take a look at the video below.