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A guide to having a happy marriage from day one


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Cerith Gardiner - published on 06/13/21

Some pearls of wisdom for wedded bliss.

Getting married is one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make in your life, and hopefully one of the best. Of course, it’s not the easiest of vocations, but it can bring immeasurable joy. To help those who are about to start off in married life, here’s a guide to make your marriage a joyful union.

Start off stress-free

Wedding jitters are totally normal, but here are some ways to help relieve some of those nerves as you prepare to say “I do” so that you can approach your big day with great serenity.

12 Ways to alleviate wedding day stress

Focus your wedding on faith

The parents of St. Thérèse de Lisieux not only produced some very saintly children, but their faith was at the heart of their relationship and family life. Although Zélie tragically died from cancer at 45, her husband raised their children in a way that honored both their mother and God. In this slideshow you’ll discover some very unique ways the Martins started out their married life with some unusual wedding customs.

5 Unique customs from Sts. Zélie and Louis Martin’s wedding ceremony

Look to Scripture for inspiration

The Bible is a go-to for every area of life, and these quotes are particularly useful to read before you enter into the sacrament of marriage. You come back to them again and again throughout your marriage for daily inspiration and gratitude.

12 Bible quotes to inspire your marriage

Seek wise advice

Throughout the course of your marriage you’ll come across people who will be happy to share the pitfalls of being “tied down.” Even if they’re well-meaning, look to more positive experiences to remind you of the joys marriage can bring. We actually turned to our readers for their pearls of wisdom, and these pieces of advice are definitely worth listening to!

12 Best pieces of advice from our readers for newlyweds (or anyone who wants a strong marriage)

Learn from wonderful examples

You might be blessed to have parents and family members who’ve had successful marriages. While you might want to look to them for inspiration, you can also look to saintly couples whose marriages might inspire you. These couples often went through extreme hardship, stayed true to their spouse, and even managed to help lead each other to heaven.

9 Saintly couples to turn to for a stronger marriage

Be royally blessed

When Britain’s Prince Philip died in April, many people were deeply moved by the diminished figure of his spouse, Queen Elizabeth II. It was easy to see how their 73-year-marriage was one of love, respect, and support. While you might not be wearing a glittering tiara, there are plenty of lessons to be learned from this loving couple.

12 Lessons from the 71-year-long marriage of Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Philip

Marvel in longevity

It might be hard to imagine waking up decade after decade with the same person. And it might even lead some to occasional panic! But take heart, there’s so much to gain from being joined in matrimony for most of your adult life as this slideshow will help you discover.

7 Joys to be had from a lengthy marriage

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