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This fun and simple game will bring your family closer together

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Mathilde De Robien - published on 07/26/22

This positive activity starts great discussions and helps everyone get to know each other better.

“Thoughtful!” “Helpful!” “Funny!” Compliments come from all sides—a rare occurrence between young siblings—and for good reason: they’re playing the game of “good qualities.”

The principle is simple: a member of the family is designated each turn. The other players mentally think of a good quality that describes the designated person. Once each player has a quality in mind, they share it out loud. The result is a “bouquet” of positive traits for the designated person, which is very rewarding and helps build self-esteem. It’s a game that sometimes holds surprises (“Really? You think I’m generous? Why?”) and starts great discussions where everyone gets to know each other better. It can be a real help because it’s always easier to identify the positive qualities (and faults) of someone else rather than your own.

Recognizing and expressing the good traits of another person, whether it is your child, spouse, mother-in-law or brother-in-law—depending on who is playing—provokes joyful debates and beautiful discoveries. The positive traits that children reflect back to their parents are particularly touching.

“Education is more than a job, it’s a mission, which consists in helping each person to recognize what is irreplaceable and unique about him or her, so that he or she may grow and flourish,” said John Paul II. It’s a mission that ultimately concerns every person in relationship with others.

Here’s how to play

Number of players: 2 or more

Age: 3 and up

Duration: 10 to 15 minutes for a family of 5 people

Rules of the game: name the good qualities of each member of the family

Goal of the game: to have a good time

30 adjectives you can use besides “nice” or “funny”:

  1. Altruistic
  2. Bold
  3. Caring
  4. Cheerful
  5. Conscientious
  6. Courageous
  7. Creative
  8. Curious
  9. Dynamic
  10. Efficient
  11. Empathetic
  12. Enthusiastic
  13. Generous
  14. Gentle
  15. Helpful
  16. Honest
  17. Hopeful
  18. Humorous
  19. Independent
  20. Open-minded
  21. Organized
  22. Patient
  23. Peaceful
  24. Persevering
  25. Reliable
  26. Rigorous
  27. Skilled
  28. Sociable
  29. Soothing
  30. Thorough
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