Traveling is one of the most enriching experiences for a couple. Getting out of your routine, discovering new places, and sharing moments away from home can strengthen your relationship ... or put it to the test.
Packing luggage, making the perfect itinerary, and facing delays, heat, and last-minute decisions can become real emotional trials if you don't approach them with patience, humor, and a good dose of faith.
This summer, we offer some practical and spiritual tips to make your trips not only unforgettable, but also an opportunity to grow as a couple.
1Remember the purpose of the trip
Before you leave, it's a good idea to do a little exercise: Remember that the trip is not a competition with your friends or family to see who can have the best vacation. It's an opportunity to share, listen, and laugh. Not everything will be perfect! But if you and your spouse travel united in intention and prayer, every difficulty can become a step toward greater unity.
Spiritual tip: Before you set out, take five minutes to pray together. Offer up the trip and the time you’ll spend together, and ask God for patience and a sense of humor.
2Agree on your expectations
Many arguments arise from unspoken expectations. One person wants to rest, and the other wants to explore nonstop. That's why it's a good idea to sit down and talk before packing your bags. What does each person expect from this trip? What would make it special for you?
Practical tip: Plan at least one moment that’s important to each person (for example, a walk at sunrise, a special dinner, or simply an uninterrupted nap). This avoids frustration and shows mutual respect and attention.
3When there are setbacks, choose to love first
Missing a train, getting stuck without cash when cards aren't accepted, taking the wrong road, ending up in an uncomfortable room ... The unexpected is guaranteed. What is not guaranteed is our reaction to it.
Spiritual tip: In those moments of tension, perform an “inner act of love.” Pray a short prayer: “Lord, I choose to love in this moment.” Sometimes you don't need an immediate solution, but a more patient outlook.
4Moments of silence — yes, even on vacation
Being together doesn’t mean talking all the time. Sometimes, enjoying shared silence is also a form of intimacy.
Practical tip: During a walk or some time on the beach, try to remain silent for a few minutes. Observe your surroundings and give thanks to God in your heart. You can both share what you felt afterwards.
5Pack a “spiritual kit” for the trip
In addition to packing clothes and sunscreen, don't forget that your soul also needs care during the trip. Bring something that reminds you of God, such as a travel cross, a picture of Mary, a small devotional book, or a rosary. Definitely bring a small Bible and read a short book from the Old or New Testament, as Pope Benedict XVI once recommended and Pope Francis suggested countless times. This will help you stay on track spiritually.
Spiritual tip: Choose an intention for each day of the trip (for a sick family member, a friend who’s getting married, or the future health of your own marriage) and offer each step of the trip for that intention. This can give each day a deeper meaning.
6After the trip: give thanks, remember, and forgive
When you return, take time to remember what you experienced. What moments brought you closer together? What was difficult? What did you learn about each other?
Tip: Say a short prayer of thanksgiving when you get home. You could even write a short “spiritual log” together with the most valuable moments of the trip. And if any hurtful arguments or comments arose during the trip, ask for forgiveness and move on.
