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On deacon wives: ‘You have to get used to the idea that you sit alone in church’

Deacon Greg Kandra - published on 10/27/17

Here’s something you don’t see often enough in the Catholic press: A look at marriage through the eyes of deacons and their wives.

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Here’s one essential acknowledgment for spouses of deacons from Maria Natera: Duty comes first. “You have to get used to the idea that you sit alone in church,” Natera says. “That was very difficult for me. Sometimes it’s a little lonely in the pew when he isn’t beside me.” Her husband, Ruben, is a permanent deacon in the Diocese of Tyler, Texas, currently assigned to Prince of Peace Parish in Whitehouse. Shawn Tiemeier, whose husband, David, has been a permanent deacon at St. Joseph Catholic Church in Libertyville, Illinois, for 11 years, has a similar story: “One time David was not on the altar and the priest asked why. David said, ‘Because I’m here with my family.’ The priest said, ‘All the more reason you should be on the altar!’” With much experience between them, both couples are frequently asked for advice about what it takes to combine the mission of the diaconate while coping with the strain it sometimes adds to marriages and family relations. It helps if the spouse is involved in a ministry of her own, they say. Natera, who plays the guitar, helps get youth choirs established in the diocese. “We kind of started by ourselves working together years ago. As soon as we registered at a new parish, I got involved in the music ministry right away.” Tiemeier is a co-director of St. Joseph’s Women at the Well prison ministry at Logan Correctional Center, the only maximum-security prison for women in Illinois. She and her husband went through the four-year diaconate training program together, which isn’t something everyone has the time for, she knows, but she recommends it. “For me, the diaconate program helps a lot in my understanding of what it means to be a Catholic. Our relationship became much richer.” But, she acknowledges, “definitely, it was a sacrifice we made in terms of the time we had to give to our children.”

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