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Deacon Greg Kandra - published on 09/25/11

Thursday night, I got a call from a classmate and  friend, the DRE in my parish, Deacon Bill, explaining that his mother-in-law had died after a long illness.  As a result, he would not be attending or preaching at the special mass for third graders in our parish Sunday.  He asked: Could I fill in for him?  I said sure.  Saturday night, I took a crack at revising and rewriting my original homily (you can read it here) to make it understandable to eight-year-olds.

It was harder than I thought. The original dealt with opium addiction, abortion, alcoholism and pagans with illegitimate children.  “Great,” I thought.  “The kids will love that.”

Going through this process, I realized that this is something they don’t teach you in homiletics — but, I thought, it might make a good exercise for seminarians and deacon candidates to have to do two versions of the same homily, one for adults and another for children.  Among other things, it forces you to ask “What is my homilyreally about?”

While it’s debatable whether this kind of child-friendly liturgy is all that necessary or helpful — believe me, I have my doubts — what isn’t debatable is that we all need to work for clarity and concision in homilies, without “preaching down” or “dumbing down” the message.  (For his part, my pastor tends to do Q-and-A homilies when he’s talking to kids — an engaging method, but one that runs the risk of turning Mass into a talk show and the homilist into Art Linkletter.)

For better or for worse, here’s the homily I preached to third-graders at this morning’s 10 o’clock mass:


Every Saturday night, my wife and I call her parents down in Maryland, just to check in and catch up on the news.  So we called last night, as usual. I told them that I was going to be preaching at this mass this morning.  They’d been to the five pm mass down at their church and they knew the readings, so I asked my father in law what he thought I should preach about this morning.  What should I tell the third graders?

“That’s easy,” he said.  “Tell them to obey their parents.”

So there you have it.  That’s my homily.

I think that’s probably one message of many in this Sunday’s gospel – and it’s an important one.

But I’d like to leave you with another thought, too.

It is a beautiful, and hopeful message, and one that we sometimes forget.

It’s this: every one of us has the ability, the possibility, of being a saint.

We think of saints as being mysterious, holy people.  We see them in statues and on holy cards and in stained glass windows around this church.  We hear stories about their courage and how much they loved God, many loving Him so deeply and so perfectly that they died for Him.

Yet we tend to forget: so many of them were people like you and me.

People who tried to do good, and sometimes failed.  People who made mistakes – sometimes, serious ones.  They often sinned.  But when they realized their sins, they chose to do something about it.

St. Paul is a famous example.  He wrote the letter to the Philippians that we heard just a few minutes ago.  He started out as a man named Saul, a very devout and very strict Jewish man, a man who made his living sewing tents.  But Saul believed that people who followed Jesus were not only wrong, but evil.  He did everything to stop them.  At one point, he even stood by to watch as they were killed.  But one day, traveling on the road to Damascus, he was blinded by a bright light, and Jesus appeared to him and asked him, “Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting me?”

In the days that followed, Saul searched his heart and came to realize that God was calling on him to do something different with his life.  He changed his name and he became one of the most famous writers and speakers in early Christianity.  Eventually, he died for the faith that he had once condemned.

And so, someone that you would never have expected became a saint.

In the same way, in the gospel, we hear the story of the son who disobeyed his father, but then changed his mind.  And yes: part of the moral of that story is that children should obey their parents.

But it also shows that anyone can change his mind, and change his heart. By doing the will of the Father, and turning away from sin, anyone can enter God’s kingdom.  Even some of the most serious sinners of Jesus’s time, tax collectors and prostitutes, were converting.

Anyone can decide to do the right thing and be saved.  Anyone can change.

In fact, anyone, can become a saint, if only they want to.    That’s how it is for you and for me.

This morning, as you prepare to receive Jesus in communion, think about the choices you have.   What parts of your life do you need to change?  What would help to make you a saint?  What can you do better?

Ask God to help you be like the son who finally did what his father wanted.

Pray for God to help you do the right thing, to make the right choices, to be what your father in heaven wants you to be.

Pray for God to help you be a saint.

That should be the great prayer for all of us, no matter how old, whether you’re eight or 18 or 80.

Pray for God to help you be a saint.

And, yes, as my father-in-law put it, “Obey your parents.”

Trust me: your life will be lot easier if you do.

You’ll make your parents happy.

And, you’ll make your Father in heaven happy, too.

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