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Bringing Small Children to Church? Here’s Some Great Advice


Deacon Greg Kandra - published on 11/14/15

I’m in Lynchburg, Virginia this weekend, giving pulpit talks on behalf of CNEWA at St. Thomas More Catholic Church.(If you’re in the neighborhood, stop by! I’m preaching at the 8:30 and 10:45 Sunday.)


The parish is giving a warm Virginia welcome to our little CNEWA team (numbering two: me and our Development Director, Norma Intriago). It’s a vibrant, engaged parish.

The church building itself has a lot of great spaces, including a Blessed Sacrament chapel.


And I can’t say enough great things about the pastor, Msgr. Michael McCarron, a dynamic priest with a thunderous voice and an enthusiastic spirit. And in the It’s-A-Small-World-After-All Department: he grew up in the Maryland parish where I was baptized, St. Catherine Laboure in Wheaton, MD, attended the school there (in the same class with my sister, though her name didn’t ring a bell) and HIS sister went to the same high school as my sister.


We’re enjoying our visit — and I already have a terrific souvenir to take home.

Lying on the table in the gathering area was a stack of cards for parents, with the following advice printed on them. I’m told it comes from the parish of St. Juan Diego in the Archdiocese of Portland, OR.


  • Relax! God put the wiggle in children. Don’t feel you have to suppress it in God’s house. All are welcome!
  • Feel free to sit toward the front where it is easier for your little ones to see and hear.
  • Quietly explain the parts of the Mass and actions of the priest, altar servers, choir, etc.
  • Sing the hymns, pray and voice the responses. Children learn liturgical behavior by copying you.
  • If you have to leave Mass with your child, feel free to do so but please come back. As Jesus said, “Let the children come to me.”
  • Remember that the way we welcome children in church directly affects the way they respond to the Church, to God, and to one another. Let them know that they are at home in this house of worship.
Please let your child use the reverse side of the card to draw and doodle.


The presence of children is a gift to the Church! They are members of our community, and a reminder that our parish is growing. Please welcome our children and give a smile of encouragement to the parents.

On the back of the card were the words:


Please let your child use this side of the card to draw and doodle. Take this with you as a reminder of your time in church.

Feel free to spread this around. I think it’s a wonderful way to evangelize families, and encourage parents to bring their small children to church.

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