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Katrina Fernandez was asked today how to choose between being a nun and being a wife. The woman writing in had long felt called to a religious vocation, but had recently met a man whom she considered her soul mate. This caused her to consider her options, since she can’t be both a nun and a wife. Fernandez gives sound advice as always:
This isn’t an either or situation. You can still faithfully serve and love God as a nun or as a wife and mother. Don’t think of this as you having to choose who you desire more, God or your boyfriend, because that’s not the right question to be asking yourself. Without a doubt, desiring God above all else can be lived out on either path you choose. You need to be asking yourself instead, which path is most likely going to get me to heaven? The obvious answer may seem “a nun of course!” But I’ve just showed you that you can be married with a family and still be a saint.
It is not uncommon for people to feel a calling to the cloth, but want a family too. If both were allowed, it’s quite possible that your contributor would be a priest right now. What do you think?
[Editor’s Note: Read more – Trusting God When I Think “I Should Have Been a Nun”]