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Can you draw the map of your partner’s heart?

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Couples possessing deep knowledge of each other are better prepared for the challenges of married life.

Couples possessing emotional intelligence and who are in tune with their own and their partner’s emotions are intimately familiar with each other’s hearts and minds. They possess all the vital information concerning their partner. They have a knowledge of events that have marked their lives, and the meaning each of them attributes to them. They are aware of each other’s worries, hopes, dreams, and fears. They know what they’ll find in every corner of their partner’s heart and need no GPS to navigate it. Can you draw the map of your partner’s heart? Here are a few tips to help you.

An honest and tactful conversation

The intimate knowledge of each other will make you better equipped to travel along the path of married life and in particular to weather storms inherent to daily life. Partners who know how to lovingly depict the maps representing each other’s hearts and minds are better prepared to deal and resolve conflicts and misunderstanding that can arise.

To be able to establish these maps, you both must honestly discuss your relationship, try to understand and hear each other out.  For this to happen each of you must take turn to speak and to listen, making your mental observations. The intimate knowledge of each other will deepen and enrich your relationship..

To know better to love better

You can cover a great number of topics, taking turns to ask each other questions. Start with easy and fun things concerning each other’s interests, hobbies, friends, books, or films that inspired you and then gradually work your way to more serious subjects concerning your identity, fears, hopes, ambitions, pains, loves, and big dreams.

Your curiosity concerning the heart and the mind of your partner can only provoke a positive response. It is a sacramental moment when silent acceptance takes place. But you need to play the game and open the door to your intimate world for your partner to better love them and to be better loved in return.

Marie-Noël Florant