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The rule for married life that helps a couple avoid apathy

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Edifa - published on 07/07/20

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No doubt, you have noticed that whenever you tell your spouse how much you value them, they quickly reciprocate with a kiss, a tender word, a smile, or a caress. A couple named Peter and Mary learned this the hard way. Ever since a huge crisis almost cost them their marriage, the tender attention they now demonstrate each other has become the golden rule. 

When separation leads to apathy

With one as CEO of a big international company and the other an auditor with clients all over the country, the spouses were torn between their professional duties and their responsibilities to each other. Originally, neither Peter nor Mary wished to overburden one another with their personal problems, so gradually they began to lead separate lives, each in their own bubble. But with time, the spouses noticed hey were drifting apart. So, despite their busy schedules they each found time to share their worries and joys with each other. In showing how much they care for one another, they’ve reestablished the close bond that unites them. One of the main secrets for their success is the importance they both attribute to manifesting mutual tenderness and consideration. 

Being present in the others life

You don’t need to solve each other’s problems, you just need to show that you are there. Your partner must hear how dear they are to you and how much you love them. This knowledge can go a long way in helping each other overcome problems.

So to restore a loving bond, lavish your spouse with affection, instead of turning a blind eye. Each step you take toward your partner will help him or her to confront difficulties with more confidence. These steps do not need to involve any grand gestures — the small things, like being there for each other, will be enough to preserve your relationship and make it thrive. 

Denis Sonet


LOVE

Read more:
How to be a better cheerleader in your marriage

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