Disrespectful or aggressive behavior between children can stem from the fact that they don’t know how to express their difficult emotions, such as anger, frustration or impatience. They need to get the message that even when it’s difficult, it’s important to communicate with respect. When a child speaks inappropriately to a brother or sister, we can intervene to show them a better way to communicate, modeling words that will help them express their feelings in a respectful way, without yelling or hurting each other.

Acts of kindness

Encourage your children to do small acts of kindness for each other. You can make it a game, in which they can share things that make them feel loved, and then think of ways to love each other. Let's commit ourselves to teach them how to be generous in doing good, especially if they’re struggling to think of ways to show kindness to their siblings. With a parent's support, we can help them realize the different ways in which they are being loved, and learn to treat each other with love.


It's good to give children individual tasks that help them take on their own responsibilities, but it's also good for them to have the opportunity to work together and help each other, by having certain jobs that the whole family does together as a team. We can teach them that everyone should work to the best of their ability, and when one person is done with his part, he should help his sibling until the task is completed. They’ll learn that teamwork yields better results and greater satisfaction.

Bonds of friendship

We know that our children may have many different friends throughout their lives, but siblings can truly be their best friends, who will be there for them through thick and thin with unconditional love. Talk to them often about the meaning and value of being friends. Remind them of all that they share, their best memories, the moments in which they have helped each other, and the unique experiences that they have shared together. Many times this can be done by going back to stories from their childhood or even using photos as visual aids to remind them of their bond.

Mutual care

We know that our children will turn to their siblings when they go through difficult situations throughout their lives, just as they turn to their parents. In the long run, they will be the ones who will support each other emotionally. Knowing that they have a sibling they can turn to is one of the best feelings in the world. Starting in early childhood, we can instill in them the importance of watching out for each other. As they get to know each other very well and understand each other better, they will be able to get through difficult times together. They’ll know that if they turn to their siblings, they won’t be judged, and they’ll receive an honest opinion from someone who loves them.