As we watch the Pulitzer-Prize winning “Dinner with Friends,” why do we cheer for Gabe and Karen to stick it out?
Dinner with Friends by Donald Margulies won the 2000 Pulitzer Prize for Drama and is a probing exploration of marriage, friendship, and fidelity. This new off-Broadway staging by the Roundabout Theatre Company—barely a decade after its original off-Broadway mounting—demonstrates that despite some portrayals in pop culture, marriage is a dream that refuses to die.
Gabe is a professional food writer and Karen serves as his editor. At the show’s opening they’ve just returned from an extravagant culinary tour of Italy, and while they’ve been married for over a decade, they describe their trip to Beth with such excitement that one might be tempted to believe they’ve just returned from their honeymoon. Meanwhile, when Beth breaks down into tears over the dessert course, we realize that not only are they unprepared for the news of Tom and Beth’s divorce, they’re ill-equipped to even respond to heartache at all. After all those dinners and all those vacations, their friendship has never ventured into the space of vulnerability. That might reveal too much. And then without any warning, it does.
Tom, meanwhile, explains to Gabe that nothing will change. They will still see one another’s children grow up together, laugh and cry at their respective weddings, still enjoy one another’s company at dinner parties–all that they’ve been used to doing as best friends. Only now, Beth won’t be in the picture. But even more, Tom thinks Gabe should revel in his happiness. He’s in the best shape of his life, his new lover has revitalized him, and all that hidden sadness from his marriage with Beth has been brought to the surface, dealt with, and spurred him on to happiness. Or so he hopes.
Yet perhaps what’s most scary about all of this, for Gabe and Karen, is that Tom and Beth’s divorce forces them to examine their own marriage. Has their friendship with Beth and Tom only been a substitute or a distraction from having serious conversations about their own relationship issues? Why does Gabe—who makes a living for his ability to articulate things well—have nothing to say when Karen wants to discuss the two of them? And what does it say about Karen, who has tried to substitute Beth and Tom for her own family members, when she realizes that they’re just as flawed and broken as the family she’s trying to escape from?
Jeremy Shamos is the standout in the cast as the affable, though occasionally awkward, Gabe. He’s a man steeled by optimism and anchored in his love for Karen, who is clearly out of his league. Marin Hinkle is a strong-minded, quick-tongued Karen, who still possesses a youthful love for Gabe. Her desire for order and harmony is rattled by the divorce of Tom and Beth, and her inability to control the situation only further complicates her own ability to be content. Gabe and Karen possess all the dynamism of a power couple enjoying modest financial and personal success and Shamos and Hinkle play these parts to perfection.
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