“Where have all the good men gone?” Author A.J. Kiesling gave that title to her book published in 2008. For all of the talk, especially in feminist circles, of “male privilege”, a sober and honest look at publicly available evidence suggests that our culture has been crushing men (and boys) simply because they are male. Compelling evidence to support that claim is found in both secular and Christian sources.
Controversial social critic Karen Straughan gave a ringing address at the “A Voice for Men” conference at Detroit last year. There she warned about changes in law and academia that harm men and as a result, harm women. In her video blog, “Girl Writes What,” she speaks here and here and about the cultural changes that have made men apparently disinclined to marry. She goes so far to say that the most familiar forms of feminism do not desire equality but rather the destruction of men. (Fair warning: sometimes her vocabulary is not entirely suitable for polite company.)
Popular online philosopher Stefan Molyneux of FreeDomainRadio has addressed similar issues. He has made blistering criticisms of the misandry commonly found in many forms of feminism. He also offers well researched analysis and commentary on the legal, academic, economic, and social forces arrayed against the dignity and flourishing of men. A list of his relevant videos can be found here. (Fair warning: sometimes his vocabulary is not entirely suitable for polite company.)
Well-known writer Christina Hoff Sommers, who made a name for herself back in 1995 with her book, “Who Stole Feminism?: How Women Have Betrayed Women, in 2013 sounded the alarm on behalf of men with her book, "The War Against Boys: How Misguided Policies Are Harming Our Young Men." In both books she documents how the most outspoken advocates for “gender equality” have done little good and much harm to both men and women.
Turning to Christian sources, we see that Michael S. Rose stirred up a hornets’ nest in 2002 when he published "Goodbye: Good Men." The subtitle of the book explains his thesis: “How Catholic Seminaries Turned Away Two Generations of Vocations from the Priesthood.” His contention is that strong men were expelled from or turned away from seminaries precisely because they were strong men.
Another outspoken critic of an anti-male spirit within the Catholic Church is Michael Voris of ChurchMilitant.TV. I know that some people object to Voris’ tone and his apparently near-constant anger, but he and his group do their homework. They are careful with their research and their use of sources, as seen on their DVDs/CDs available on their site. Voris has produced a number of YouTube videos addressing the crisis of masculinity in the Church. Some of the most recent can be found here and here.
Protestant author David Murrow’s 2011 book, “Why Men Hate Going to Church” offers not only criticisms of current Protestant practice but also offers attempts at solutions. He is the founder of “Church for Men,” with a mission to offer ministry and worship that appeal to the nature and needs of men specifically. His online quiz, “How guy friendly is your church?” might be worth a look from Catholic men as well.
All these sources argue, in various ways, that men and women suffer when culture is arrayed against the flourishing of men as men. When the masculine charism—which includes risk-taking, innovation, sacrifice, leadership, struggle and courage—is denigrated, everyone suffers. Boys refuse to or are rendered almost incapable of becoming men, or, very often, men are told that their masculinity is not welcome. (For example, men are told that they are by definition advocates of “rape culture” and are all at least potential rapists, although the