5 Reasons your daughter should read ‘Kristen Lavransdatter’

Editor's note: Aleteia recently released its list of 'Big Winter Books' for 2024. That list included a classic 3-book novel by Nobel Prize winner Sigrid Undset, 'Kristin Lavransdatter'. We are happy to reshare this perceptive look at the novel by our regular contributor, Fr. Michael Rennier. And just as a side note: We assure you that male readers will love this novel, too!

In 1920, a Norwegian woman named Sigrid Undset published a historical novel called Kristin Lavransdatter. A few years later, Undset would be received into the Catholic Church. And a few years after that, she would win the Nobel Prize for literature and donate all the prize money to charity. One of the charities she supported served mentally disabled children, and her passion for this arose from being a mother of two children of her own who struggled with disabilities, one of whom she had adopted.

Undset was a remarkable woman who deserves to be a feminist hero simply for her life-story alone.

But Kristin Lavransdatter reflects the personality of its author. Written at a time when women in novels were often either docile and lacking personality or sinful seductresses heading to a bad end, Kristin is neither. Set in medieval Scandinavia, the trilogy follows Kristin as she grows up, makes mistakes, sins, and fights her way to redemption and happiness. Her life is real, her experiences difficult, the choices she makes disastrous, but she also matures as a woman, finds forgiveness, and follows an interior journey of spiritual development.

The novel is long, but the fascinating descriptions of medieval life and the content of the story make it worth all the work. This book is probably best suited for teenage girls and older because of the challenging subject matter, but I can think of no better book for my own daughters to read during this period of their life as they too are finding their place in the world.

Here are 5 reasons I want my daughters to read Undset's Kristin Lavransdatter:

I mean, she makes huge mistakes. As Kristin approaches marriageable age, a local man named Simon shows his interest. He is kind, good, and a steady provider, so of course Kristin impulsively rejects him. Instead, she attaches herself to an errant knight with no money and no morals, follows him out of town, and conceives a child with him.

When it comes to dating and especially teenage romances, we've probably all made mistakes -- that's simply part of growing up. Kristin shows us the natural result of those mistakes when they go too far and how careful we must be with the gift of our hearts. Hopefully her story will help my daughters develop prudence to avoid sharing a similar heartache.

Dads and daughters have arguments; it's a fact of life. Those arguments don't have to separate us forever, though. Kristin has a major quarrel with her father when she spurns Simon, the husband her father has chosen for her, and instead runs off with her handsome playboy. Bookish Girl writes, “Kristin defies her father, her community, and her god to bind herself to Erland, boldly assuming all the dangers and adventures of his turbulent life. As her admirer Simon Andresson says: ‘You trod all underfoot and braved all that you might come together.’”

In the end, Kristin and her father reconcile, even though he never approved of her actions.

Kristin has trouble with forgiveness, and in the book, this isn't depicted as a healthy personality trait. For instance, after quarreling with Erland, now her husband, they separate and refuse to grant each other forgiveness. Finally, it is only as Erland is dying in her arms that they come back together. It is so easy to cut people out of our lives the instant we think they've wronged us that sometimes the decision to do so is considered a virtue. Undset doesn't fall into that trap and examines honestly the effects of unforgiveness in our lives.

Much of the novel deals with the joys and challenges of motherhood. It doesn't ignore realities like breastfeeding and nausea, and it also doesn't leave out the enchantment of cuddling with an infant for naptime.

Undset also masterfully describes the spiritual effects of motherhood. Kristin contemplates her first child who was born while she was still unmarried, “Conceived in sin. Carried under her hard, evil heart. Pulled out of her sin-tainted body, so pure, so healthy, so inexpressibly lovely and fresh and innocent. This undeserved beneficence breaks her heart in two; crushed with remorse, she lays there with tears welling up out of her soul like blood from a mortal wound.”

The innocence and purity of the child is a gift to the mother, who is careworn and feels like a failure. None of us is the perfect parent, but children can become our guide to heaven.

In pop culture, religion tends to be relegated to a few, ethereal saints or hypocritical puritans. Kristin's faith is neither. It's earthy and authentic. In other words, it's an actual, honest depiction of religion as we all experience it.

Ruth Graham writes at Slate, “As flawed as Kristin is — she is proud, lustful, brooding, and fails to live up to her own moral standards — she is a devout believer... one of the most remarkable things about the trilogy is that it’s a rare literary depiction of religious people that is both empathetic and unsentimental.”

We all want our children to have a strong spiritual life, and the first step is acknowledging that we are all very much flawed, but in spite of that we are all very much loved.