For decades marriage has been weakened by no-fault divorce laws. Between high break up rates and low birthrates, marriage has become divorced from commitment and from children. So it’s little wonder that gay rights activists have wedged their version of de-gendered marriage into law. Of course they consider the next step after marriage equality would be divorce equality.
“The right to divorce isn’t as upbeat a topic as the right to marry, but gay-rights lawyers and activists say it’s equally important.”
“The idea you can’t go to your local courthouse and file for divorce is very disruptive,’ said Peter Zupcofska, a Boston lawyer who has represented many gay and lesbian clients in marriage and divorce cases. ‘It’s an enormous waste of effort and time.’”
You know what’s disruptive? Divorce. Breaking your vow to your spouse. Fracturing your joint commitment to your children. Leaving your husband and moving in with a girlfriend for a few years, and then moving in with a different girlfriend. You know what’s an “enormous waste of effort and time”? Lawsuits like this one, which attempt to force states to recognize same sexism marriage.
Isn’t it a teensy bit hypocritical to blame the state of Mississippi for not validating a marriage that even Czekala-Chatham no longer wants?
One thing is for sure, the easier we make divorce, the harder it will be to strengthen marriage in our culture.
Kelly Bartlett has been practicing life, love, and marriage for decades, hoping to improve her game. She writes from Vermont.