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How Could You have Aborted my Big Brother?

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Theresa Bonopartis - published on 07/24/14

In the midst of all the suffering, however, is the mercy of God. Finding a place to go to release the pain and to learn the dynamics involved in abortion and how these affect their life will aid them in their healing. God can transform this intense suffering and bring peace and joy to families fragmented by abortion, drawing them closer, not only to one another but to Him. “A” expressed it this way:

“Facing my grief’s power meant facing the fact that I, like my aborted sibling, was vulnerable to my parents and family—not vulnerable to the point of physical death, but vulnerable to the point of rejection on the grounds of my obstinate obsession.

"The Entering Canaan Sibling Retreat was a turning point in my life. The day’s gentle, unhurried pace, Eucharistic focus and intimate setting allowed time to stop and expand, encompassing both the pain of the past and hope for the future. … It was strange and deeply comforting to be in a place where the central spiritual wound of my life was acknowledged and soothed, not idolized but transformed through a call to acceptance, forgiveness, healing, and celebration of my youngest sibling’s brief life on earth and eternal life in Heaven, where she or he now intercedes before the face of God for the healing of my whole family.

Now I know that this wound I bear is becoming like Christ’s wounds: welling up with God’s love so that everyone—my mother, father, all my siblings, and the generations before and after us— may be drawn to Him.” 


Theresa Bonopartisis the director of the post-abortion healing program Lumina and co-developer of the “Entering Canaan” post abortion ministry model.

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