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The Sexual Answer to Same-Sex Marriage

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Tom Hoopes - published on 07/20/15

Be fully aware of what’s at stake this NFP Awareness Week

It is NFP Awareness Week: A great time to be aware that Natural Family Planning is the only possible Catholic answer to same-sex marriage.

Natural Family Planning—NFPis the scientifically proven way to avoid or achieve pregnancy by reading the signs of a woman’s body, instead of using artificial contraception on the one hand or chancing the future on the calendar on the other. It’s a natural, effectiveand morally licitalternative to contraception or fertility drugs.

So what does that have to do with same-sex marriage?

1. Natural Family Planning preserves the true meaning of marriage.

It is no wonder, really, that our society redefined marriage.

Marriage has always been the institution society and the Church established to recognize, protect and encourage child-bearing relationships and child-rearing couples.

Now the Supreme Court has redefined marriage so that it a license from the government granting special favors to those who are willing to register their sexual relationships with the state.

The Supreme Court’s Obergefell v. Hodges decision in 2015 may have been inevitable after its Griswold v. Connecticut in 1965. That’s the decision that legalized contraception through a right to privacy, and, with the invention of the Pill, ushered in a transformation of marriage and launched the sexual revolution with all its disastrous consequences.

It is hard to argue that heterosexual marriage is different from homosexual marriage in 2015, when decades of drugs and surgery have rendered so much married sex to be just as closed to life as homosexual sex.

Enter Natural Family Planning.

2. NFP preserves the meaning of sex.

In the Natural Family Planning movement, many people have rejected contraception. And this hasn’t been a cause of pain and sadness for us, but a cause of great happiness, because, as it turns out: Non-contraceptive sex is better sex.

Sex is meant to do two things for us: Unite husbands and wives, strengthening the marriage bond, and procreate, bringing new life.

The problem: When we sterilize sexual acts in order to stop the “life” part, we end up stopping the “unite” part, too. We don’t just change the possible outcome of the act: We change the sex act itself.

When men complain that their wife “just isn’t into it” they are saying that sex has stopped being a self-giving expression of love. When women complain that their husband “is just using me” or has stopped having sex altogether—in a growing number of cases, preferring pornography and masturbation—they are noticing the same thing.

The couple has moved from “making love”—sex that wants to give as much as it wants to get—to “having sex”—sex for pleasure or comfort or stress-release but at any rate for me.

Natural Family Planning makes it much harder for couples to take sex for granted—especially when it is part of a complete sexual morality that also rejects all sex acts that are closed in on themselves.

When we have to wait for sex, when we have to respect its meaning, when we have to understand our spouse’s body—we discover the real power of sex.

3. Natural Family Planning preserves sex’s power in our lives.

The real power of sex is that it is not just another pastime; it is something that affects our whole life.

This is why songs about sexual relationships gone bad are so filled with angst and anger — from Carrie Underwood’s “When He Cheats” to Ceelo Green’s “Forget You”—and why every honest movie about casual sex ends in sadness—from Alfie to Don Jon.

Sex is a powerful force. To misuse it is to deny something about our very selves, and to invite a kind of alienation.

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